Hi, everyone keeps telling me that it will hit me in a few days? I’ve had my surgery. I’ve had emotional low points, I’ve thought about it since Mother’s Day to be honest when the doctor found my lump. Exactly what is going to happen? I am taking each day as it comes- will I wake up one day and totally lose it? Every time I wake up I think is this the day that it will hit me? What does that even mean? I’m very much a get on with it kind of person so this unknown that everyone keeps talking about is scaring me.
Hi Jillyflower and welcome to the Online Community but I am sorry to hear about the journey you have been having. The waiting is hard but take this time to get yourself ready for the journey ahead.
Navigating the cancer journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type can help a lot.
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Hi Jillyflower and a second welcome to the online community
Everyone is different and there's no right or wrong way to feel.
Like you, I'm very much a get on with it kind of person and that's how I remained throughout my diagnosis and treatment for breast cancer last year.
Please ignore these people who are scaring you saying that "it will hit me in a few days" as you may well continue with your pragmatic approach as I did. Last year I met plenty of people who also didn't "lose it" but just got on with things. That's not to say that people don't get very upset but, if that's not in your nature, you shouldn't expect to.
(((hugs)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
