I have very recently (1 Month ago) lost my sister to Cervical Cancer that had spread everywhere. We lost our Mother 6 months ago to Vascular Dementia & my Sister attributed most of her symptoms, loss of appetite, weight loss, aches & pains down to bereavement as she was my Miother’s primary career. She had also, been diagnosed with having Fibroids which is what she thought was causing the heavy irregular bleeding. After discovering she had an extensive amount of weight loss, I brought her to come & stay with me thinking I could help her to get fit & well enough for a hysterectomy which was recommended for the Fibroids. On bringing her to my home, I realised that not only was she so weak & anaemic she couldn’t actually swallow, so I phoned an Ambulance. She was taken to hospital and after numerous scans, I was told that she had Cancer pretty much everywhere and that there was nothing that could be done to save her. She was dead within 1 week of diagnosis. Today is a week since her funeral. I am in complete & utter shock that this has happened to my sister who was only 54 years old. i am really struggling with the fact I no longer have my Mum & my Sister and in such a short space of time. Not sure what to do with how i’m feeling! Most of the time I try to carry on as usual but not sure how long I can do o that for. I am completely devastated.
Hi Clary73 and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your sister and your mum, my sincere condolences. I lost my mum a few years back so I do understand in part what this is like although my mum did not have cancer.
This can be such a challenging and stressful time but reaching out to the community will give you the opportunity to ask questions and getting support from others who are on the ‘exact’ same journey.
The Community is actually divided into Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family and friends you may benefit from joining our Bereaved family and friends support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same challenges.
To join a group first click on the “Bold Link” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post. You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
There is quite a lot of information in What to do after someone dies and many hospitals have bereavement services who may be able to offer support.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat where you will find one of team there to help you out. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Do get back to me if you need further help.
