Both parents are terminally ill

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  1. Both of my parents were diagnosed with terminal cancer 3 days apart, back in sept 2022. My mum has womb cancer and my dad lung cancer. They have both been struggling on for the last few months and have deteriorated considerably. I never imagined I'd be watching both my parents go at the same time. I've recently started to struggle mentally with it all, I feel like it's been bottled up and has now come to a head. I visit them a few times a week but feel like I'm annoying them as they are so tired. But I don't want to stop as I know time is limited. I yurn for my childhood, they were wonderful when my siblings and I were children (6 of us).... I feel robbed but also thankful that I have the happy memories. Its all just not fair. 
  • Hi  and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your mum and dad’s diagnosis. 

    A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but reaching out to the community will give you the opportunity to ask questions and getting support from others who are on the ‘exact’ same journey.

    The Community is actually divided into Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family and friends you may benefit from joining our Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.

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    Do get back to me if you need further help.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

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