Husband lung cancer

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Hi everyone I’m new to the group. My hubby was diagnosed with lung cancer at beginning of December and since then although it was a busy couple of months he is on chemo tablets and doing well. We have no actual support and I don’t want people around us to know that my anxiety is through the roof. Dr gave me citalopram but I stopped taking it after 3weeks as I felt it dulled me and lost pleasure in things. I have lost weight and don’t know what to do as I don’t want further meds.I want to be strong, care for him, make good memories but I’m struggling. I feel I need someone to talk to who will challenge why I’m feeling like this but there is no counselling available only in 18 weeks.
I haven’t been able to find any support groups.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

latchbrook over 2 years ago

Hi Autumn8 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

I'm sorry to read that your husband has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and I know what a difficult time this will be for you both.

As the online community is divided up into different support groups, I'm going to recommend that you join and post in the lung cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences around treatment, etc.

Another group which I think you'll find helpful is the carers only group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions with others who are looking after someone with cancer.

To join these groups, just click on the links I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here, and join in with existing conversations by clicking on reply.

It would be great if you could pop something about your husband's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"

Midmod over 2 years ago

Hello Autumn 8, my name is Julie. I’m so sorry you are going through a frightening time and I strongly suspect your husband is too. I will try to support you both if I can. My husband who is 56 and 4 years older than me, was told 5 weeks ago that he is cancer at the bottom of his Oesophagus. He had PET scan and endoscopy at St.Thomas hospital a couple of weeks ago and was due to have keyhole surgery the day after, but as we were waiting in the waiting room for him to be called to see the Anaethetist, we were told he can’t have any surgery now as it’s already spread to a couple of other places and it’s stage 4. My husband started Chemotherapy 2 days ago, yesterday he felt only a little bit sick and tired. I’ve been on Fluoxetine on and off for 20 years and my doctor sometimes prescribe Diazepam which really helps to calm me. Please don’t hesitate in asking me for any help I can give you x