Hi, my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable lung cancer on the 13th of January, they’ve delayed chemo for a month because she has an infection, hopefully her treatment will start on the 8th of March. The last few days she’s had 4 nosebleeds and has felll a couple of times. I feel like she’s gotten so much sicker recently.
I am worried her infection hasn’t cleared by the 8th of March and they will delay the chemo again. The doctor might look at her and think she isn’t fit enough to deal with it anyway.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? I am terrified they are going to say they can’t do anything for her.
Hi Stu176 and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis and the challenges she is having.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and to ask your questions.
The Community is actually divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our supportive Lung Cancer support group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis and treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the (Bold) Group Text Link I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
