Hello
Yesterday I had to say goodbye to my beloved Mum after a short but intense fight with lung cancer. She received her diagnosis on Christmas Eve but did not share this until New Year as she wanted us to enjoy Christmas.
In October she was fit as a fiddle. Going to the gym, looking forward to the New Year. We wanted to go on a nice family holiday together. She had just retired from a career in nursing.
I cannot believe how quick this all happened and I can’t get my head around the fact that there was nothing that could be done.
I’m struggling so much with the loss. We were with her when she passed and the intense pain I felt when she drew her last breath was immediate and I’m finding it overwhelming. It’s there in my chest like a great big rock. I don’t know what to do.
Hi Trixie Bo welcome to the Online Community but so so sorry to hear about your mum, my sincere condolences and a big supportive ((hug)) I lost my mum a few years ago so I do feel for you.
This is going to be such a challenging and stressful time for you but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and to ask your questions.
The Community is actually divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our supportive Bereaved family and friends support group. This is a safe place to talk to others who have navigated the same path, to ask questions and get support from others who understand.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the (Bold) Group link I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
There is quite a lot of information in What to do after someone dies and many hospitals have bereavement services who may be able to offer you support.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
