I was diagnosed with grade 3 aggressive breast cancer last July, at first my 29 Yr daughter (2 babies 2 and 8 months) was supporting me, she slowly pulled back, when I had all the scans, I understand they injection me with nuclear stuff, then she can't be with me for a few appointments, OK, then acts totally pulled away, my eldest just sent me a text saying sorry you have cancer I'm not in a position to deal with this, my younger one is nearly 19 now sents odd message of I'm proud of you, I sent Christmas messages, I heard nothing back, I sent a text asking to talk 2 days ago, been read, I got divorced in 2000 after 19 marriage, they backed me knowing how it was, like since I'm single, see me different, but I meet a man has I got diagnosed we live together, I sent messages please meet us, introduce you last October. Anyone else been pushed out?? friends and cousins, message me, I'm lucky I've met my man, or I'd be alone at home. I found this cruel, been advise not to chase them??
Hi TraceyGand a warm welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your diagnoses and the family challenges you have been dealing with…… families and friends do all react every so differently and at times you will not understand them.
A cancer journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but you have done the right thing in reaching out to a place where you can ask questions and getting support from others who are on the ‘exact’ same cancer journey.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and I do see that you have joined our supportive Breast cancer support group. This group is a safe place to talk to others with a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the (Bold) Group Link I have created above then once the group page opens you can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
We also have our Telephone Buddy Service where you can be matched with someone who understands what you're going through, and they'll give you a weekly call.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help.
