Dear Group,
My husband has been loosing weight for about seven weeks. After a lot of nagging by me I got him to see a Doctor and then had to do the same when antibiotics didn't work. I finally got him to A and E through the Doctor and he has been told there are cancer cells at the top of his stomach but they can't find where the mass is. He has an endescopathy on 27th Jan.
I believe the cancer must be quite advanced due to the fact he is exhausted, has lost 2 and a half stone in 7 weeks and by his actions I believe he is in pain but he denies this.
The recently lost his brother to cancer.
I love him so dearly and I want to fight for him. But I feel awful trying to get him the help I think he needs when he won't or can't co-operate with doctors and obviously they won't talk to me without his permission (which he won't give because he's worried about me or he has been told something he doesn't want to tell me.
I want to go to the doctor's and tell them what's going on at home but neither do I want to upset my husband.
Hi Lilly_s5 and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your husband's ongoing diagnosis.
The cancer diagnosis journey is such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and to ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so once your husband has a clear diagnosis have a look through THIS LIST where you will find all our many dedicated cancer support groups listed.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis and treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends and Carers only support groups where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
