Please help. She was only told biopsy/scan results 2 weeks ago and has been told there is nothing they can do for her. She is 72. I’m her son 53 an she has a daughter 42 whose mother in law is also terminal. My sister has an autistic daughter ( my darling niece) who does not know either is dying. I just don’t know who to turn to who to ask stuff or what I should be doing. How long has she got I don’t know. We don’t have another appointment till jan3rd which we received by mail. We were hoping on a phone call to try and get some guidance. I don’t know how to ask how long do they think she has. I’m single and a bit of a loner. I’m under the mental health. I just sit here for hours in tears staring at the walls. Was here till 7am the other night. Please can someone give advice on how long they think my mum may have. I’m after honesty first and worry for me later. My mum won’t talk about anything and my sister has been to her appointments. So I’ve not spoken once to my mum about things as she does not want to and wants to just carry on as normal as we can.
Hi and a welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and as I am the one with cancer I have no experience that can help you so can I recommend you join and post in our general Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others dealing with the same challenges while supporting family.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the (Bold) links I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services and during holidays) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
Hi again I am so sorry that you are feeling this way……. this is a hard time for you. Why not call the Macmillan Support Line open from 8am-8pm 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 and you will find a friendly listening ear ready to talk with you for how ever long you want to talk.
Sorry you are finding the technology hard.
When you want to find anything you have posted on the site or the groups you have joined click on ‘your’ community name and this will bring up ‘your’ area of the site.
The first thing you need to do is follow the instructions I gave you above to find and join the two groups as this will help you connect in with the group better.
As for coping your text I am assuming you are using a phone or a tablet (get back to me if you are not) to copy text tap your finger at the ‘very end’ of all your text and a little black box will come up where you can tap on ‘Select All’ this copies all the text…… go to the new group you want to post and once the home page opens click in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You put in a post description and as you will have the text already copied you just click anywhere in the main text box and hit paste.
This is a hard time for you but please persist in connecting in with the groups as the members are all navigating the same challenges.
Please do get back to me if you need further help ((hugs))
Hi and welcome to you but I am sorry to hear about your dad.
Could I recommend you read through the information I have already posted above the consider join the groups highlighted as this will connect you with others who are walking the same path ((hugs))
