So last few weeks has already been an exhausting journey of hospital and a&e appointments.
A few days ago we had the news my husband has kidney cancer and in the new year it will have to come out.
It’s been a shocking time and so we are both processing. I’ve currently many worries that i feel lost with on how to support him and us throughout it.
Main worry is i’m already exhausted before the surgery and long recovery after as i’ve got fibromyalgia. I’m really worried how we will cope for ourselves and care of our animals during this time.
There are family and others offering help and i know i need it, we need it. But don’t know what to ask for. Especially as things that need sorting are around the house, clearing, cleaning, etc.
Currently under a list of stress, confusion and emotion and unsure if anyone has any helpful guidance especially if used to dealing with fibro pain and fog. I want to take as much stuff off my husband as possible so he can focus on processing this hard news and recovery…
Hi Amypug and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and to ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our supportive Kidney cancer support group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis and treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) Group link I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only support group where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
