Hi all,
My wife was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 3 weeks ago.
She has started to get confused, disorientated and sleeps most of the time. I have just come back from the hospital as they were supposed to have done a biopsy on her today to see what further treatment they can do for her. Be it chemo or radiation etc.
When they initially diagnosed her, they also said that the cancer has moved to her liver and she also had clots on her lungs.
The symptoms she has been having could either be from the morphine or the liver as it has deteriorated since the last blood tests done 2 weeks ago.
How do you ready yourself for the worst. Even though you try to stay positive that something will come up and will make her better. Your beliefs tell you that you should put your trust in God and he will help you.
We have been praying soo hard!!! But everytime you see a doctor they just hit you with even more bad news. This rollercoaster is terrible.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your wife’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and to ask your questions.
From my 23 years living with and being treated for an incredible blood cancer a journey like this can shake your Faith to the core but you have to keep trusting.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our supportive Pancreatic cancer and Liver, secondary cancer support groups. These are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis and treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) Group links I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only, Supporting someone with incurable cancer abd possibly our Religion, spirituality and prayer group support groups where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
