Hi all, I am new to this so please bear with me.
Not long ago I informed a good friend of mine that I was been treated for cancer and was in a bit of pain on that day. With all the goodwill in the world, he told my circle of friends. Now it was as if I was dying or worst I was contagious. Most are trying to be good to me offering me their seats or buying me a beer when it's my round. Some are just not happy having me around. I thought that it was me but after four months or some know that it is not. I know that in the next stage of treatment I am going to start looking a bit different so have decided to stop going down to my local club on Fridays as I normally would. Is this usually or am I really seeing things that are not there?
Mikey Boy.
Hi Mikey boy and a welcome to the Online Community.
A cancer journey is such a stressful and challenging time but you have done the right thing in reaching out to a place where you can ask questions and getting support from others who are on the ‘exact’ same cancer and journey.
What you are experiencing with your friends unfortunately can be normal as many people just don't know how to deal with this type of information.... it would be worth you connecting in with one of our support groups as these are safe places to talk to others with a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
You don’t say what type of cancer you have but if you care to have a look through THIS LIST you will find all our many dedicated cancer support groups listed.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) Group Link I have created above then once you find the group for your chancer type click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
We also have our Telephone Buddy Service where you can be matched with someone who understands what you're going through, and they'll give you a weekly call.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help.
