Hello, I have just joined today and looking for some advice if possible. I'll give you a little background on my situation.
My dad passed away in January 2017 due to bowel cancer, I was 27 at the time. For the last 5 years I've blocked it out as a way of copying. I've been with my partner since before this happened and he's mentioned on a number of occasions that I struggle to show emotion and that I am unable to be affectionate. Which I agree with I know I'm closed off but I can't help it. I don't know how to fix it. I'm starting to realise it's taken a roll on the relationship and that I probably need help to process things and work out how to change this if anyone can point me in the right direction on getting help with this. Thanks Lxx
Hi and a welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about the lose of your dad and the challenges you have been facing.
I lost my mum 2 years ago tomorrow (not to cancer) so in some way I do understand but I unpacked it all very quickly.
You have done the right thing in reaching out to a place where you can ask questions and getting support from others who are on the ‘exact’ same journey.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our supportive Bereaved family and friends support group. This is a safe place to talk to others with a similar experience, to ask questions and get support.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) Group Link I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about practical information, get emotional support, or just connect with a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help ((hugs))
