Hi,
I have recently found out my mother has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and there is no treatment, just to be made comfortable. This has happened all so fast, just under 9 weeks and I am struggling to process my feelings and thoughts.
How do you deal with this? What is there to help? I just feel so out of touch and lost and angry. I don't know what to do.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated and supported.
Hi and a welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
It is an emotional time for you so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our general Family and friends, Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others dealing with the same challenges while supporting family.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) links I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific cancer and practical information, get emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
