Today has got to be one of the worst days of my life. My poor mum has been in pain for months with her back and leg to the point where she become bed bound.
Me and my dad were called into a room today by Oncology to inform us my mum has cancer in her Liver,Lungs, Spine and Brain
It was so much to process. The fact that I could lose my mum soon kills me. I feel a sense of loss. There is still so many more places to take her and memories to make. I feel so broken I want to support my dad and I also have a family to look after too.
I hate to think of my mum suffering and being in hospital all on her own at this awful time. I'm not sure that I can cope with all of this. I am a sensitive person and close to my mum.
Hi , welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and to ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who are navigating the same challenges, to ask questions and get support from family members on the same journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) links I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
((hugs))
