Hey everyone,
Yesterday we were told they would no longer be able to treat to cure my dad. He had one round of chemotherapy, which he reacted badly too and it led to numerous infections. He has an aggressive form of Oesophageal cancer and we have now been told the prognosis is 3-6 months with short term radiotherapy starting tomorrow.
I have always been so close to my dad and he was so fit and well until June this year. I also found out I was pregnant with my first child at the start of July, exactly the same date we got told it might be cancer. I can't sleep, I just keep crying all the time and wondering how I can possibly face having my baby without my dad. I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant. Cancer is so cruel and I don't feel I can be happy or excited now about the baby. I never saw this coming, he's far too young. How do you possibly handle bringing a child into the world whilst your loosing the one person who has always been there for you and who has always loved you unconditionally, I really need some help/ support on how to deal with this.
Hi Stacey33 and welcome to the Community although I am sorry to hear about diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the Community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and I do see that you have joined and posted in our Gullet (oesophagus) cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family on the same journey.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
All the very best.
