Hi, not sure how this works as I’ve just joined. I am really struggling at the moment as my lovely mum was given 6-12 months at the beginning of May this year when her treatment failed for ovarian cancer. She is being absolutely amazing, but doesn’t want my children ( grown adults ) to know the timescale she has been given. They know her treatment has stopped but that’s it.
I feel very selfish saying this, but I really don’t feel like I have anyone to talk to about it if my boys don’t know. I want them to make the most of the time left with her and for them to take my grandchildren round to see her as much as they can.
I find it hard to talk about it and really find it hard to talk to my dad as I know he will be devastated when my mum passes. They have been married 57 years.
i honestly feel like I’m living in a dream bubble and am hoping everyday it bursts and it’s not real. I’m 53 so not a child, but can’t describe the pain I have at the thought of my mum not being around anymore.
Hi Mumof4boys and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and prognosis. A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges. These groups are safe places to talk to others, to ask questions and get support from family on the same journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
((hugs))
