Hi, I am so sad everything has happened so quickly. In mid may my mum was told she had stage 4 cancer which started in womb and had spread to her ovaries, bowel and diaphragm. We were shell shocked. In late June she went into hospital to have hysterectomy and bowel removed, but when they opened her up it was more extensive than scans had shown so they just removed a small part of her small bowel and she had stoma. They also found it in her liver. Mum was in hospital for over 8 weeks and came home August 23. After a week of being home she deteriorated quickly and couldn't eat or drink and felt sick. She went into a hospice on Monday for symptom control not end of life, but tonight as me and my sister were at the bathroom emptyng mums stoma bag a nurse asked for a word and told us it was imminant. We both stood there in shock my sister was literally standing there with poo in a bag. When I asked when? The nurse said she didn't know but now would be time to be off from work as time is precious. I can't stop crying, I don't understand. I will see Doctor tmrw. I don't know what we will say to mum.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis and prognosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges. These groups are safe places to talk to others who are in the same journey, to ask questions and get support.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and aim to give support to all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
((hugs))
