Hiya I’m 50 and I’ve just been diagnosed with breast cancer I have had a date for surgery which is the 30th September, my surgeon discussed with me about having a lumpectomy which he said it is possible that I will have a second surgery .. he was 100% sure that he can get all of the cancer out including the lymph nodes that are under my arm where the cancer is also. He also discussed a mastectomy but was so confident about the lumpectomy I said that would be ok but when I came away from the consultation I was so confused as to whether I should of said I wanted to have the mastectomy instead I do think my mind would be clearer afterwards if I did .. I know the cancer can come back either way but can somebody please tell me if having a mastectomy then having reconstruction would they make the other breast look the same as the reconstructed one? This is the first time I’ve properly opened up about my cancer diagnosis… please be kind 
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Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to see you joining us and to hear about your diagnoses
A cancer diagnosis can be such a stressful and challenging time but when it comes to support there is nothing better than talking with others who are on the exact same cancer and treatment journey.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and I see you have already joined and posted in our Breast cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
We also have our Telephone Buddy Service where you can be matched with someone who understands what you're going through, and they'll give you a weekly call.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help.
All the very best.
Hi again , it can be very overwhelming so no apologies required. This is what the community is all for.
I have been on my journey for over 23 years with my rare incurable blood cancer so had lots of crossroad decisions to make with regards to treatments but as I had never talked with anyone with my condition I had to put my full trust in my clinical teams and they have always been spot on.
It’s good that you are getting some reply’s in the group….. and I am sure that more people will pick up on your post.
Talking can clear the head so do check out the support routes I have given you as this will help you get some order to the battle between your ears ((hugs))
