A month ago I found out that my Moms breast cancer has came back after 14 years. It’s now spread to her bones and her lungs. they’ve told her it’s incurable, they are going to do chemo to try and prolong what time she has left. But the outlook isn’t good.
Shes 54, I am 31 and she is my best friend. I have two daughters aged 7 and 4 who don’t have a clue what’s going on. But they idolise their Nanny. My Mom is still so positive (Infront of us) and I try to be when I’m around her. But at home I’m a complete mess, I can’t sleep, I just can’t accept it. I feel so angry and can be snappy. To be honest everyday is a struggle to get up. I’m trying so hard to keep being ‘normal’ as I have to be a good mom to my girls, but I’m really struggling. I’m scared.. I don’t want to loose my Mom.. And I don’t know who to talk too..
Hi Lolita and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your mum has recently been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer and I know what a difficult time this will be for you both.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions with others who have a loved one living with cancer. You could also join the secondary breast cancer group which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences about this type of cancer.
To join just click on the links I've created which will take you straight to the group where you can then join and post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your mum's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
This link will take you to a blog which explains how to get the best out of the online community but if you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
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