Feel stupid for not seeing a doctor sooner

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I'm 22. For over one year I have been having intermittent rectal bleeding that starts at random times, not accompanied by a bowel movement. I obviously thought of bowel cancer right away as anyone would, but dismissed it as likely being hemorrhoids/fissures due to being so young, and I was concerned about the 'embarrassment' in going to the doctor. I didn't want to seem hysterical by going to the doctors and mentioning cancer for what was statistically most likely to be a standard issue. Anyway, the bleeding has progressively been getting worse and this past week I have had a huge bleed that soaked through my underwear whilst in bed and I finally decided it was time to get checked out. I've had virtually no pain anywhere in my stomach or going to the toilet, other than recently I have had a painful cervix and intense nausea after any sexual experiences, but I assumed that was unrelated. To my surprise, the doctor said he could not feel any haemorrhoids other than one that was long since healed and formed a skin tag. They have said that I likely have cancer (one of either bowel. ovarian or cervical), and I am awaiting the results from my FIT test, and waiting to be seen for a CA125 blood test and an abdo/pelvic ultrasound. I feel so stupid for not getting seen sooner. They said there is a chance that it is 'just' colitis, but my nan passed away from chrons/colitis + cancer complications and I am close with people who have Chrons and their quality of life is poor. 

I am also Autistic, and this is really distressing me. The waiting for the results feels so painful. I haven't had my ultrasound appointment yet, and I feel so stressed waiting for that and I am constantly checking my GP portal to see if my FIT test results have come back yet. 

I also have two young children and I am so scared of how I am meant to look after them with any of the possible conditions. 

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