Hi, my Mum has recently been diagnosed with bladder cancer. She has been given an op date for in about 5 weeks time to remove tumour. All we have really been told at this stage is that it looks like a small tumour in size, but not too much else. It's difficult to know how to feel, what to say, how best to move forward until we know more detailed information. Right now, it doesn't really seem to have sunk in at the moment. Thanks, Pat.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms). I do see that you have joined and posted in our Bladder cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friend group where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful and also cancer and your emotions and finally getting help with your emotions.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing supporting all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
All the very best.
