Hi all,
If I’m being completely truthful I don’t know what I’m doing here. My dad has just been diagnosed with Cancer of the Liver, hips, throat and jaw and I just don’t know how to process it all. My head feels like it’s in a big jumble. I know it’s not my place to feel all messed up as he is the one going through it. I just don’t know what to think or feel right now. I am a mixture of emotions.
It’s perfectly understandable not to know where you are right now considering what you have been told.
As someone who’s dad dealt with cancer and had another scare this year and I am going through cancer myself, you’re not alone and we’ll all do what we can to support.
One day at a time all you can do. Deal with the facts in front of you and be patient with yourself.
Hi Darkphoenix1998 and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I suggest you consider joining our supportive Liver cancer group (and we have other groups in this list) a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends group where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is indeed an emotional time so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful and also cancer and your emotions and finally getting help with your emotions.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing supporting all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
All the very best.
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