Hi so im really new to all of this...2 weeks ago my fiance found out he had a tumour 1cm above his rectum he had been having issues for months with his bowels. Yesterday we found out the tumour is cancer and he has small specs on his lungs he is only 40 years old and as far as were aware theres no close family history! We have 3 children 12, 10 n 6 im so devastated and scared for him hes already lost 3stone and hes so uncomfortable i just dont no what to do. We walked to the park today and my 10 year old son wanted to play football and i had to keep telling him dads unwell my partner looked upset as he watched another dad having fun with his kids i could see the pain in his eyes my heart is breaking and i dont no what to do
Hi GemD84 and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your fiancés diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis like this can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) so can I suggest you consider joining our supportive Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer and Lung, secondary cancer groups. These are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends group where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing supporting all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
