Hi all,
I lost my dad just over 2 months ago and I am still in the having nightmares about the last few days of his battle, I've not felt as lost and broken as I do right now in my entire life.
He would have been 70 yesterday but he was fitter and healthier than most 30 year olds until 17 months ago when we got the dreaded diagnosis.
I'm also in the unfortunate situation of losing my job due to being pressured into going back way too soon, and then getting told 3 times by 1 of the managers that I should just get on and get over it now, and then his wife (another manager) telling me that as it's the school holidays that I will have to work 6 long days (as it is not their fault regarding the inconvenient time of my fathers passing) instead of the 3 shifts of 6-8 hours that was agreed for me to try and get back to work whilst still signed off. Hence to say I didn't react very well so I got signed off again from the GP, and was then told by text that my p45 is in the post. I guess they really didn't need me to work the 6 long days after all.
I am really missing my superhero and I wish he was still here to protect me as he always did, I am not sure if that feeling will ever ease or be more bearable with time.
Take care all x
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad, my sincere condolences to you.
I lost my mum rather suddenly 20 months back (not cancer) so I do understand the challenges of the 'trigger' dates.... the saying time heals is actually true, yes there are some emotional point on the journey but you will heal.
Sorry to hear about the problems you are having with your employer...... could I recommend that you call our work, benefits and financial guidance team on the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 as they will be able to help you out with regards to your employment rights
The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) and I do see that you have joined and posted in our Bereaved family and friends group. This is a safe place to talk to others who are navigating the same journey, to ask questions and get support.
You may find it helpful talking to people face to face for bereavement support so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
