Hi All,
I’m watching my wife rest before she goes into surgery to have a double mastectomy and reconstruction in just over an hour. I’m feeling scared, anxious and an unpredictable future. She’s so much stronger than I am and in her words, “I just want these f#(king things off me”.
The children understand mummy has a lump. I’ve been told it’s normal to be on this emotional rollercoaster too.
I find it difficult to talk about with friends and family so am using this platform to express something to the world.
We are so lucky to have an amazing support network.
She will also have a lymph node biopsy whilst under and we are hoping for clear results by next week.
Thanks for reading.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your wife’s diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) so can I suggest you consider joining our supportive Breast cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends and Carers only groups where you will connect with others in the same position.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
Thank you Mike
