Hi Everyone,
I am new here. My dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2018. Was in remission for a year, then it came back. Few months ago it spread to his liver. Chemo stopped working.
He was referred to hospice care.
Dad is in hospital now. I don't live in my home country, which makes things more difficult. I can't just go and see him every day.
He doesn't want to talk with anyone on the phone (my mum visits him every day).
I am planning to go over there for at least few days (I have 11month old daughter, which does make things more challenging).
How do I deal with all of this and how should l speak with both my dad and mum? I've been crying every day since l found out that he is in hospital.
Thank you and hi everyone!
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and prognosis. A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
I see that you have joined our supportive Supporting someone with incurable cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to others who are in the same position, to ask questions and talk with others who understand.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens you can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00
These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very help you navigate this so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
