Hi, thanks for allowing me to join. Mum got a diagnosis on Friday of pancreatic cancer which has spread to her liver. I am so scared of what the future holds. Mum has taken it in her stride. She has mentioned that if she is eligible for chemo and it only gives her a further few months but she'll be sick for those months that she won't take it. She said she'd rather be able to have time with her kids and grandkids being relatively well. She's not sleeping (neither am I to be honest). I know I need to be strong for her but I am finding it very hard. I just feel so lost and confused.
Hi , welcome to the Online Community although sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone on a journey like this you may benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others in the same position.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.
These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
