Hi. My husband had throat cancer three years ago which was cured with chemo and radiotherapy. Two years later, cancer was found in his lung during a pet scan. This was treated with high dose targeted radiotherapy,SABR. The latest PET scan shows the cancer has spread to his other lung and his windpipe. No cure. He cannot have radiotherapy again and operation wasn't given as an option for him. He has ENT appt for some sort of injections to help ??? And chemo starts on Wednesday. My husband refuses to talk to me about the prognosis and I have a million thoughts rushing around my head. How long can they continue chemo? How long do we have together? How am I gonna manage financially and emotionally. Will his death be painful. How do I tell my grandkids who are still small and worry about me dying all the time. I've told them I'm gonna live for a long time yet ( I'm 66) and my husband is 18 months older. I know this will frighten them. Thank you for listening to my rantings x
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your husband has recently been told that his cancer has returned and is no longer curable. It must be an incredibly hard time for you both at the moment.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the head and neck cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences with others who have the same type of cancer, and also the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and fears with others who have a loved one living with cancer.
To join these groups just click on the links I've created and then join and post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it, it would be great if you could pop something about about your husband's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
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