My mum is in her late 50s and was an alcoholic for a long time leading to her liver cancer. Which I've received mixed reactions to with some believing she deserves it because of the life she chose. We didn't have the closest relationship as her drinking caused alot of hurt and upset she also has mental health disorders which leave her either very depressed or in extreme hyper states.
I was told of her diagnosis within the last 2 months and her cancer was deemed incurable straight away and shes mainly on treatment for pain relief now with only a few months of life left.
I feel awful that now she is sober and has been for a few years now that were finally getting along but it won't be for long. Its hard to think that she won't be around in the future and that on our good days there's this dark cloud over us. Shes in a home due to needing help with every day care now but I also feel like none of it is real, that some days I dont want to face my family and just want to hide and on other I'm angry at this cruel waiting game were playing.
Is this normal has anyone else had similar feelings?
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm really sorry to read about your mum's diagnosis and it's perfectly natural to feel as you do.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you'll then connect directly with other carers, friends and families of people with a terminal diagnosis. You'll find it's a safe environment to discuss your emotions as well as practical issues about palliative care..
Clicking on the link I've created will take you to the group where you can then join and post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
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