Dad having palliative care

So sorry your going through this. I my self am at the palative stage of bowl and lung, I put a brave face on and try my hardest to keep things 'normal' for my 3 kids and wife. It gets harder every day and everyone's cancer affects them and the families differently. At this stage in mine, all I want is for everyone around me to carry on as normal, but as a dad it's hard when you can't do and help out as you used to. You all need to be strong for each other. Things for me have changed so much in such a short time, I love my family and hope I've brought my kids up well and love my wife, the fact you are posting on her shows your love for your mum and dad, that is all that counts, they will know how you feel deep down, just a good hug and kiss works wonder's for the soul, we are on this world for such a short time, cherish every moment you have with your dad and I'm sure you and your mum will be ok, I hate the fact that I will be leaving them all behind but life is for living and remembering the best times you all had together and talking about those times is the best tonic. I really wish you well and hope you can all find strength at these times. ️

Hi Starcatcher123and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and prognosis. A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.

The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family you may benefit from joining our general Supporting someone with incurable cancer group. this is a safe place to talk to others who are going through the experience, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their palliative pathway.

If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."

You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.

These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.

Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.

Give me a shout if you need further help.

Best regards.

Hi and a warm welcome to you but I am so sorry to hear about your journey. 

You may find our Living with incurable cancer - incurable patients only group as this would be a safe place to talk with others who are walking the same journey.

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I am sorry to read of your story. You sound like you are being very strong for toy family. So hard to deal with. Being a dad yourself you will understand the mental and physical struggle as my dad until a year ago was so active and would do anything for his family. He now deals with the reality of being so week and feeling unwell and in pain every day. It is so sad. I am doing my very best to support mum and fad.