Hi all,
I'm new to the community, my name is Sam (Samantha), I'm 30 years old and on Thursday I was diagnosed with an aggressive type of Breast Cancer. The prognosis is good but I'll admit that I'm still a bit frightened about what is to come.
After a nudge from the breast nurse I took my mum with me to get my results (bearing in mind that from the start the GP thought it was an abscess so I wasn't worried at all) and I really wished I hadn't, she was understandably upset. I took the news in my stride, telling my mum it would be ok and trying to reassure her, I've had a life of bad luck so to be honest I just see it as something else I've got to contend with. My first thought was 'how am I going to tell my partner?' as I knew she would be upset.
My family and friends are all very upset and they say I don't need to stay strong on their behalf, I don't feel strong, I just feel an overwhelming sense of guilt. Guilt about the worry and upset I've caused, guilt about the potential burden I'll become. Guilt that I'll let my work colleagues down etc...
I'm glad I got it rather than anyone else in my family but I'm so used to being the one doing the running around after people that the thought of being the one being ran around after is really upsetting.
Has anyone else felt like this or am i abnormal?
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
Having been diagnosed with breast cancer myself recently, and melanoma before that, I can tell you that however you're feeling is normal. There are no right or wrong ways to feel or react when you've been given a cancer diagnosis.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups and I can see that you've already found and joined the breast cancer group which is a great place to ask questions, share experiences and get support.
When you feel ready to post there you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about about your diagnosis and treatment plan into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
Edit - I should just add though that you have absolutely no reason to feel guilty.
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