Hi, my daughter was diagnosed last year with 2 tumors in left breast and 1 under her eye. All tumors have been removed and 1st mammogram has come back clear. She is on tamoxifen which is causing depression and fussiness in her brain.as she lives alone and does not drive I moved in with her last June and stayed until end of January of this year doing all the necessary driving to hospital appointments, anything up to 50 mile round trip each time. Also acted as nurse when scars became infected after breast operation, cleaning wounds every day, driving to see Macmillan nurse 3 times a week for 5 weeks until healing had occurred. Then did the round trips for radiotherapy every day for a week and then drove her to 1 hospital to have facial tumour removed and then across city to another hospital for plastic surgery and then home all on same day. As her mother I was only too happy to do whatever it took to help her through this traumatic time but whilst she received incredible support from Macmillan nurses, her doctors and friends and work mates I felt very isolated as I was over 120 miles from home and my friends and had nobody to talk over what we were going through or have a shoulder to cry on. Although I have been home more this year I am still spending extended time with her. I am now finding it difficult coming to terms with what has happened to my daughter asking myself why her? Her depression is not easy to live with as she doesn’t make any efforts to hide it from me as she does with her friends, consequently as now feel very down, am struggling to find the energy to do anything and not really interested in anything much. Also socializing again after spending so many months isolating whilst she was being treated is very difficult. Does anyone have any advice as to how to overcome these feelings please and is it normal to feel so angry with the world and even my daughter? Help
Hi Pennybelle and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm really sorry to read how much you and your daughter have been through and are still going through.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join and post in the carers only group as you'll then connect directly with other carers who will understand what you're going through.
Clicking on the link I've created will take you to the group where you can then join and start a new post in the same way as you did here and also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your daughter's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
x
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