Hi all
i never thought I’d be writing in a forum like this!
a little back story, my husband has just recently been diagnosed with thyroid cancer and is awaiting a 6 week block of radiotherapy!!
I have 3 children (2 older from marriage number1) and a 13 year old diagnosed with ADHD & autism, it’s his dad & my hubby that has cancer.
im really trying to be supportive but my hubby (probably understandable) is cross & angry, I’m struggling to keep that anger away from my son, but feel like a bitch when I pull him up on it!!
I honestly can’t remember the last time he said a nice word to me and although I understand his fear, worry & frustration I also have a responsibility to my son to shield him from the animosity that my husband is displaying!
I feel awful even saying it but I’m genuinely at a lost, due to our sons autism he needs structure & routine which obviously at the moment is out the window, we are being as honest as we can be with son but he misses his dad!! Guess as a family we not doing too well at the moment! Hubby is also very against me telling neighbours etc, but in my opinion these are the people who I may have to rely on for help!
that’s us in a nutshell!! Trying to navigate this new phase of our life xx
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Hi and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) so can I recommend that you consider joining our supportive Thyroid cancer group. This will be a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their treatment pathway.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our general Family and friends group where you will connect with others who may be in the same position.
Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.
These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
