My mum got diagnosed with cancer today. I’m scared and quite lonely. I’m an adult but have cognitive disabilities and my mum cares for me. She’s the one stability I have and my most important person. She didn’t want to know her prognosis, but I needed to as I don’t manage change well. They said that people with advanced cancer like hers have a small chance of making it past a year. What am I supposed to do with that? They were kind and made my mum feel reassured, hopeful and optimistic which I am grateful for. I can’t do that for her. But, she’s my human. How do I come to terms with this? she keeps saying things about the future and I know it won’t happen. I’ve never experienced true loss and even though I know it’s happening, I can’t imagine a world without my mum in it. I’m a bit lost and I don’t know how to support her. I know my conditions make it hard for her to be around me sometimes. I lack patience and understanding. I’d just like to be able to make her better. Is there any advice you can give me? Thank you for listening.
