Having trouble accepting end of life diagnosis

Hi  and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your mum’s  diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.

The Community has various support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups. These will be safe places to talk to others who may be dealing with the same challenges, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends.

If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."

You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.

These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.

Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.

Give me a shout if you need further help.

Best regards.

Hi, I’m new to this but I want to share my experience of what happened with my mum.

We didn’t know my mum had cancer until we were told she had 6-8 weeks left. 
whilst mum was able we planned a big family day out to the local zoo. Spent time with her each day and carried out her wishes. She planned her own funeral and made cards etc for grandchildren etc. 

All you can do is be there for your mum, your mum will know how your feeling but I expect she may save her tears for when she’s alone. 
It may not feel like it but you can and will get through it and your mum would be so proud 

Hi, we have just found out my mum have liver cancer that is terminal. I'm fleeting between trying to be positive and then angry, sad. Lost my dad couple years ago my brother a year ago and now this with mum. She's such a kind, loving woman and she has been trying to be strong and positive but I see it in her eyes. She dotes on my son and he adores her. I'm trying to be positive but then thinking I need to ask this ask that  how will I afford her funeral. My head is bursting

Hi Leeso and welcome to the Mac Community but so sorry to hear your news.

Do check out the groups I have highlighted in my post above. As for the financial challenges do call the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance with regards funeral costs or just a listening ear. 

Thankyou, I will have a look.