Hi am new to this, I am starting to slip into anxiety really badly am caring for my dad am early 30s my dads 68 he’s got bowel cancer he’s stopped receiving treatments discharged him self from the hospital as he said it’s quality over quantity of life. This was 8 months ago. Now he’s so so bad he can’t even stand up and is in extreme pain
I don’t no how long he has left I wouldn’t even no where to start he’s lost 12 stone in 10 months he was 25stome, I don’t no what to do or where to go or even get any help it’s making me so sad watching him deteriorate in front of me has anyone had any similar experiences to me it’s getting me down.
o don’t no what to do Thankyou 
Hi and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your dad, a cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community has various support groups (chat rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family at a time like this you may benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups. These will be safe places to talk to others who may have a similar experiences, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family during these hard times.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post and as always you can reply to existing ‘Discussions’ by click [reply].
Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.
These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best.
