Hi there, I’m new to the group. I came here to get my head around what is happening
Both my mum(75) and stepdad (86) have terminal cancer
Mum had breast cancer that has spread to her lungs and her bones (that we know of). She has had all the chemo etc that she can have. She has developed seizures. She won’t tell us what her consult says.
my stepdad has cancer in his kidneys and bowels. He cannot have any treatment as he is so frail. He weighs just 5 stone. He also has chronic COPD.
They live in a 3 storey house without a stairlift. They are letting food rot. The house is filthy dirty. They won’t allow carers or cleaners to come in.
they are a constant source of worry for myself and my sister .
Hi Allie B and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about both your mum’s and stepdad’s diagnosis and prognosis.
This is such a difficult time for you to navigate but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community has various support groups (chat rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family during these very difficult times you may benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups. These are safe places to talk to others who may be dealing with the same issues, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family members.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post and as always you can reply to existing ‘Discussions’ by click [reply].
Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.
These services provide practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
Supportive ((hugs)) coming your way.
