Too much loss to cope

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After losing my brother to lymphoma when I was 17, my mum to ovarian cancer when I was 25 and now my dad to prostate cancer two months ago, I have now lost all my immediate family at 50. I haven't got any children which I am now regretting as well as all that combined grief and feeling very alone.

My partner has only lost grandparents & although they were very close it is not the same. He doesn't understand and doesn't know what to do, he gets frustrated, impatient & insecure because I have lost interest in most things including him, but his impatience makes it even worse and makes me guilty and angry which I could really do without.

I have seen GP today and rung Cruse to start counseling but I don't think they are doing face to face which works best for me but I know it's first steps and early days, just really struggling & signed off work

  • Take as much time off as you need as you are entitled to.I have no words to comfort you but can understand what you are going through as I recently my 24 years old son to Lymphoma.

    There is something like cancer is an evil and we can't do anything.I am sure your parents wanted you to be happy and do the things that they were no able to do. 

    If you have  faith, then pray if it helps.You need to look after yourself as I can see some sort of cancer is running in your family.Take some counselling sessions straight away, speak to your employer to arrange for you, only surrounded by positive people,  go for walk or join some fitness classes 

    Sending you strength and love 

    Ghaz xx

  • Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

    I'm really sorry to read about the losses you have suffered and I can only begin to imagine how painful this must be for you.

    As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups and I can see that you've already found and joined the bereaved family and friends group. When you feel ready to post there I'm sure you'll find the other members very supportive.

    If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help

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  • Hi I read this and this to is my life unfortunately I first lost my dad to cancer then my brother passed away and now my mum has cancer and there is no treatment so I'm having to watch her die to and I am only 34 years old Iv lost everyone I love to and my husband hasn't lost a single person yet so he doesn't have a clue really about how this feels and untill reading your story I am yet to find anyone else who has lost so much in a short time either. You are not alone and it's a shitty cruel world that some of us have felt more than others. I hope you are feeling better now as this was wrote some time ago I hope you have had the help u deserve beat wishes xx