Hi All,
My dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer 10 years ago this year, he's had several operations including removal of the large bowel, however the cancer spread to his liver and lungs. He has had several rounds of chemotherapy which have had no effect and as a last resort he was prescribed lonsurf which again has had limited effect. The oncologist has said 6-12 months which I know is a very rough estimate at best. He's OK at the minute, but as a family we have no idea how long he might be with us, or what his final decline might be. We've been thinking about it a lot of course, but the more we do the more confused we are. I just wondered how did some of you cope when given this kind of news? My dad has started thinking about palliative care but I guess this is a very last minute decision? We try our best to support him, but again it's like we've been left hanging with no support, as he's now been officially discharged from the oncologist.
If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated.
Many thanks
Lauren
Hi Lauren and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read about your dad's recent diagnosis and I know how hard it must be for the whole family right now.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join and post in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is for carers, friends and families of people with a terminal diagnosis to discuss their emotions about the prospect of losing their loved ones as well as practical issues around palliative care.
To join just click on the link I've created and then join and post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it it would be good if you could pop something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
x
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
You're very welcome Lauren.
The online community can seem a bit overwhelming to start with but there's always someone around to point you in the right direction 
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
