Hello, my Mum, in her late 70s, has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer after finding a lump. She has been told its very treatable. She is going to have a mastectomy. I'm feeling so sad she has to go through this. We only lost my dad couple of years ago and she only just recovered from a bad accident requiring surgery. Until 6 months ago I lived 5 mins away. I now live 40 mins away. I feel so guilty for that. Im punishing myself for my mum having this diagnosis. Cancelled a UK break even though we would be back home well before mums surgery. My sibling lives 5 mins from mum.
Im also feeling very angry that my mum has to go through this.
Sorry for my rant
Hi and a warm welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be so stressful and challenging but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community area is our reception desk where we can signpost you to our various cancer support groups and other services so can I recommend that you consider joining our supportive Breast cancer group. This will be a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post and as always you can reply to existing ‘Discussions’ by click [reply].
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our general Family and friends group where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear and our Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section may be helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
Wishing you all the very best.
