Hi all.
im not quite sure how this works, but I’m betting we all have one thing in common.
I lost my mum on Monday to lung cancer. She had been trying for over two years to be seen as she had lost so much weight and felt dreadful, yet nobody listened.
Finally someone took notice at the GP surgery and referred her. This was late March. We saw the consultant and he was very hopeful it was treatable and we just needed a couple more scans to confirm exactly what we were dealing with.
since then, it’s been an uphill battle. She went for all of the tests, scans, biopsies... and we had zero information back from them. She ended up very poorly with suspected sepsis after one biopsy and went to hospital. It turned out she had pneumonia. They tested her, sent her home and we thought she would be ok.
the only time between now and then that I have spoken to a consultant was when they told me she had hours to live. She was in hospital again, I saw her the night before and she seemed on the up. Apparently they sat her down and told her the worst news anyone would want to hear (that she is terminal), without even asking if she wanted family present.
I am in utter shock, I’ve not processed her passing at all but I just wanted to ensure that nobody goes through this guessing game like my brother and I did. So PLEASE ask every question, ring the nurses, pester the hospital as much as needed to get answers. Because the one I got was far too little, too late.
huge love and hugs to everyone out there dealing with this awful disease 
Hi Saralouand a warm welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about the lose of your dear mum, please accept my deepest condolences.
I lost my mum a few years ago and although she did not have cancer there was failing in her initial diagnosis that resulted in her premature passing.
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There is quite a lot of information in What to do after someone dies and many hospitals have bereavement services who may be able to offer support.
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Wishing you all the very best ((hugs))
