My partner of 13 years has just been diagnosed with terminal renal cancer it has already spread loads He has gone down hill within weeks. I am struggling with it. He moody sleeping loads. Don’t know what to do. I trying to be positive but it hard
Hi and a warm welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your partners diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be so stressful and challenging but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community area is like our reception desk where we can signpost you to our various cancer support groups and other services and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups. These groups are safe places to talk to others are supporting family and friends on their journey.
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Talking to people face to face when on a cancer journey (patient or family) can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area.
Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best.
Hi Toni71, i am so sorry, it is hard, I too had a partner who was terminal too. Good with treatment for a few years then the last year was harder, all I can say is, you are stronger than you think you are, take it a day at a time use the MacMillan team, there isnt much you can do, try to ring around friends, I used to rotate them so I wasn’t asking the same friend each time, you need to look after yourself in order to help him, best of luck and remember the forum is here to support too
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