My mum was diagnosed with Primary lung cancer secondary Liver on 24th January we as a family are in total shock she has always been fit and healthy the nausea and retching has eased as a steroid has been added to the anti sick in the syringe driver, she has been in bed for 15 days only getting out of bed to go to the loo and is hardly eating or drinking she has lost so much weight and looks s frail. This weekend since the steroids/anti sickness have finally started working she has managed to have a shower some food and has even sat out in the garden 
We we’re told we were looking at weeks but given how she looks now do you think it could be longer? I spoke to the palliative nurse but she didn’t really answer my question just that we need to try and get mum comfortable and let her enjoy the time she has
Hi and a warm welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer journey in the family can be so stressful and challenging in many ways but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
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Talking to people face to face when on a cancer journey (patient or family) can be very helpful but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
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All the very best.
