My husband had bowel cancer which was removed then he has been diagnosed with peritoneum cancer and also has two lung nodules. We are going to the hospital on 5 May for tests prior to cryotherapy but I get little information out of him and he hates me going to the hospital with him. He says he tells me everything and there is no prognosis. I feel depressed and frustrated with jo information and putting up with his bad moods. I love him but it’s horrible. How can I cope?
Hi Toyo and a warm welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis.
A cancer journey like this in the family can be so stressful and challenging in many ways but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where you can be signpost to our various cancer support groups and other services so can I recommend that you consider joining our supportive Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer, Peritoneal cancer and Lung, secondary cancer groups. This will be safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions, get support
and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their journey.
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When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone on their cancer journey you may benefit from joining our supportive Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
You may also find our Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face when on a cancer journey (patient or family) can be very helpful but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best ((hugs))
Toyo, I absolutely feel for you. I am having to deal with the same bad moods (quite frightening at times) and wall of silence. Not all the time .... but the unpredictability almost makes it worse in a way. I really sympathise with your husband - he is having to go through so much -
ut YOU are important too. I do hope someone gives you some helpful advice on this forum but, in the meantime, I am here if you need to vent xxx
