Hi. I really don’t know where to look for advice. Long story short. My wife was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in October 2016. Full hysterectomy and Chemo etc. cancer returned in November 2020 and further major surgery followed by chemo.
Last week, we were informed the cancer is back attached to her bowel. Surgeon says he will operate to remove the tumour because if he doesn’t he says there is a strong chance of bowel obstruction. possibility of a Stoma being required but there will not be any chemo etc this time. My wife came off the phone has told me she is terminal and dying. My world has fallen apart. We have been married 38 years. Surgeon didn't give any timeline etc
I’m in bits. I have no idea what to ask etc and I can’t go to any consultations because rules won’t permit it.
Hi Robert and welcome to our community though sorry to hear about what your wife and then you have been going through.
My wife's cancer is very different, Leiomyosarcoma and was incurable from the get go but in her case fortunately chemo has rendered it stable. When she was diagnosed she was very clear she did not want to know about timescales and I struggled with that. Several years down the line I came to realise how sensible she was as nobody can say what will happen in a single case just results based on averages.
I know some oncology departments will help support the next of kin often with e.g. a phone consultation with the clinical nurse specialist who may well be able to answer any questions you might have. You could ask too in Ovarian cancer forum where there will be people with lots of experience that might help you. It might help you too to join us over on Carers only forum where there will be many like you and that can help us all feel a bit less alone.
<<hugs>>
Steve
