Hi, I'm new to this group. My Mum has peritoneal cancer, she has gone through chemo and we have found out last week that it hasn't worked. Her cancer is stable, they gave her 3 options 1)more chemo 2) a drug called Tamoxifen to prolong her life as much as possible or 3) do nothing. She's gone for option 2 as she can't cope with more chemo. I'm completely lost and keep crying at the oddest times. I live 3hrs from her, I talk to her every day but it just feels not enough but with 2 girls and work I can't see her as much as I want. I'm also worried about my Dad, he relies on her for so much and he's not in great health either.
I don't know what I'm asking I'm just lost
Hi Saz and welcome to our community though sorry to hear about your mum.
Good to hear that your mum's cancer is stable but can understand why everyone hopes for more. My wife's cancer is very different but in her case she is in good health, her cancer is stable and we are living with cancer rather than anything else.
Your reactions sound fairly normal to me and if we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer we can see how very common this emotion is.
You also talk of having 2 girls, I wonder if you have seen Talking to children and teenagers - our son is 18 now but has spent far too long visiting hospitals for someone of his age.
You might like to drop in to Carers only forum and/or Family and friends - Discussion Forum where there are lots of people in similar circumstances.
<<hugs>>
Steve
