New Member - Lost my wonderful mum 2 weeks ago ... feeling numb.

Hi Pink Elephant and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is a supportive place to be.

I'm very sorry to read that you have recently lost your mum to cancer and it sounds like you did all you could to make her comfortable.

There is no 'correct' way to grieve. Everyone is different and you might find it helpful to have a look at this information from Macmillan about grief.

As you know the community is divided up into different support groups and I can see that you've already found and joined the bereaved family and friends group which is a great place to give and receive support. When you feel ready to post there just click on the link I've created which will take you straight there. You can then start a new post in the same way as you did here.

If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help

x

Hi Pink Elephant. Just as our fingerprints and DNA are different...so is the way we grieve. My Mum died of bowel cancer in 1987. I couldn't be there as I had 2 under 3's and lived 200 miles away. It was 3 months after she died when it suddenly hit me she was dead - I had called home because my younger child had just taken his first steps and when Dad answered the call I almost said is Mum there.

In hindsight, I totally understand why it took me so long to get to grips with it, there was a lot of other stuff going on, not least that we moved house the week before she died.

My neighbour had a knock at the door very late one night - it was the police. Her husband was working away from home in the south of France (due to fly back next morning) and they told her he had been murdered in a fight. Did she collapse on the floor? Scream, cry, deny it? No, she said I need to hold my cat and sat down and cuddled it.

You are definitely not a freak. Nor are you an actress in a tv show. You are able to grieve however you want to grieve - its what ever is right for you. Anybody who cares about you will understand that. 

Thank you  Sorry to hear of your loss and how awful for your neighbour x You are right everyone is different and I need to remember that and stop criticising myself. Really appreciate you taking the time to reply .... thank you x

Hi sweetie, please try not to be so hard on yourself. Everyone reacts so differently. A good cry can really help with grief and pent up emotions ... The tears will come eventually, I promise you. Inthe meantime, I'm sending you lots of love and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers ️️️

Beautifully said, Newbie xx