Hi there.
A few years ago my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. After a mastectomy she had reconstructive surgery , which failed badly and left her with scars . She wont let me see her chest area as she is still embarrassed by her look.. We tried counselling but were not offered the type of counseling that we needed . Over time her feelings have led her to overeat and put on a fair bit of weight. This has caused us to argue as I think her weight gain might lead to a recurrence of the cancer . She thinks this is nonsense. I don't know who is right. I'm feeling lost as to what to do or how to move forward. We are both trying to get fitter (gym) and eat more healthily . Is there anyone out there who has has similar problems ? Help.
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read how your wife is struggling since she was diagnosed with breast cancer and that she hasn't been able to access the correct type of counselling. You haven't said who provided the counselling but if it wasn't Macmillan then your wife might be interested in the free specialist counselling that they are currently providing through Bupa. If this is something you think might be helpful clicking here will give you more information.
You mention that you feel that your wife is over eating and so gaining weight but weight gain can occur due to treatment. You might find this section on lifestyle and well-being after treatment helpful.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the breast cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences with others who have this type of cancer, and also the carers only group where you can share your feelings and get support from others who have a loved one living with cancer.
Clicking on the links I've created will take you to the groups where you can join and post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your wife's diagnosis and planned treatment, when you know more, into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
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