Hi there

Hi there.  Ive just joined the group. My dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer nearly two years ago, he underwent the whipple proceedure, where they removed most of the tumour.  He had mop up chemo but had to stop due to a severe colitis flare up which nearly killed him.  Sadly he recived poor care in hospital, he came home where we nursed him back from the brink of dying.  He has since enjoyed a good quality of life, however, sadly its back now in his lungs and where the pancreas was.  Im just devastated, he has refused palliative chemo as he wants to enjoy what time hes got left without feeling ill.  

  I just feel angry and tearful, my.mom is strugglung and we have had a few arguments as shes said some really cruel things. I understand its her way of coming to terms with things and she has apologised, my son who is very close to them, also keeps arguing with my mom also as shes constantly nagging at us.  This has upset dad as my mom just seems to be talking about when hes gone instead of focusing on now.  Has anyone else experienced this ? Im trying to cope with the news plus having to go to work and generally being the support person for everyone.  I think she needs to talk to someone to try and accept whats happening.